VENGEANCE – A Guest Post By GBADEBO ADEBAYO

Avenge! Avenge!! Avenge!!! These are the banging voices that sound repeatedly in our mind whenever we’re offended by people or at the moment we discover we are being jilted by them. Willing to take on VENGEANCE as the first step of action against any person found wanting seems to be the default settings for each of us. But, does taking a step at being vengeful really make us even, soothes/pacify us, brings peace… just as the voices of being vengeful seems to present us all? 

VENGEANCE pictures itself to us in a way that, it’s the ONLY way to be equal with what any man might have done to us or to show to them that we’re ‘hard nut’ too. Avenging oneself poses far more danger than willing to ‘dead’ the issue(s) and move on peacefully. At the least, if we’re to create a better world we all crave for, the voices of VENGEANCE which bemoan unto us to be vengeful towards any hurt/disappointment… from any man needs to be curtailed to achieve a better us or environment. 

Avenging oneself would never end at your own vengeful actions, vengeful motives from you leads to avenging from the other person back. It won’t stop until it brings everything amongst you both or one another into total ruins. If you’ve been there (vengeful) you’d seemingly know that, it’s best to let go than hold on to avenge yourself (after promising yourself) with all the strength within you. It only becomes VENGEANCE to VENGEANCE into VENGEANCE until everything is ruined and can never be as it was at inception. 

VENGEANCE destroy relationships (in totality) between people. One important fact is that, it brings in those who were not aware of both persons (or if it was between more people) vengeful plots into your avenging stories and then (through the ills of VENGEANCE), they start their support of helping to avenge or aid the vengeful ‘evil’ spirit of whom they choose to back-up amongst the starting parties. VENGEANCE is darkness and a trait everyone should look to break from (especially if it’s a dominant trait) in their life. 

“An eye for an eye would make the whole world blind.” – Unknown. 

We have to learn to be able to move on and be free from the ills of always aiming to avenge ourselves when being trampled on by people. It’s never satisfying, though presenting itself as a way to soothes you but at the end, it only brings about a motion of VENGEANCE cycle until there’s total destruction to all parties involved. 

“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” – Criss Jami. 

After conforming to the ‘sweet-seduction’ of the voices of VENGEANCE or revenging that keeps striking our mind, the aftermath of it all procures PAIN. The dampening effect(s) of this pain is more far-fetched than the pain we were battling with at the start of the hurt from people before giving in to avenge ourselves. VENGEANCE might seem cool but the pain it causes after everything boils down is FOREVER. 

“Vengeance and revenge are just two words for pain” – Michelle Shocked.

The peace that comes with letting go instead of succumbing to the inner voices of being vengeful cannot be over-emphasized. Leave the rest to God to deal with or in a way most people say, to ‘KARMA’. In the end, vengeful people actually get what they deserve even after you’ve let go or already forgot having issues with anyone. 

“Dear beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” – Romans 12:19.
VENGEANCE would come back to those who seek it, PEACE is for those who choose to LET GO. The best form of VENGEANCE is; no VENGEANCE. Focus all the energy you would have wasted avenging yourself towards a better you, your better world, and in loving appropriately those in your life who would never make you think, ‘avenge’! 

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