For the most part, people whose lives are in constant chaos choose to live under those stressful and unhealthy conditions. Some like the feel of constant pressure, while others simply don’t know any better or don’t know how to put a stop to the chaos. But you also have the choice to not be a part of their world of constant issues, concern, and drama.
Just as many people choose to downsize their homes to achieve a more peaceful and less demanding lifestyle, you can choose to make the changes in your life that are necessary to find simplicity and tranquility. You are not required to tolerate the added stress and challenges that these people have chosen to to endure. Do what makes you happy and if that means the end of a relationship then know that it is what is best for you and that is all that matters.
This post is balm to the soul!!! So much drama today and, yes, we have a choice, as you so eloquently express in few words. As my dear mother used to say, “People are their own worst enemies.” Thanks, so much, Kathy, for such a powerfully written reminder. xxxooo
Thank you Pam for all of your kindness and support!
No one intentionally chose chaos. No matter how we think we are in control of our lives, by doing the wrong things, sometimes life takes control from us, until we do the right thing/s. Your chaos, is normalcy for others. Not all of us can really live the life we want, and the ones who do, boy do they have a tale to tell.
Most of the times when I have seen someone willfully embrace chaos, it was in a business environment. And the person who was creating and feeding the chaotic nature was doing so in an effort to gain control of the situation. It was a person who was over his or her head but could not and would not admit that fact. But by creating chaos, the person was able to hide his or her own failings among the myriad of other issues. On a personal level, most of the people I have met who live in a constant state of chaos are doing it to remain the center of attention. It is sad when someone resorts to these methods in any part of their life. And I think that it also makes it even more difficult for those who don’t know how to eliminate chaos but would like to. But any time it is willful, my choice is to leave, not to be mean but as a means of self-preservation.